Sunday

We somehow managed to time nap to hit both the children’s museum and a friend’s first birthday today in addition to the usual cleaning and laundry, and now at 7pm are feeling both pleased with the success and supremely exhausted.  Commence Sunday downtime to prepare mentally for the work week ahead.  When I first typed that out, I capitalized “nap” which says a lot about the life of a parent and its relative importance.
K had a blast at the birthday party – she loved playing with the other toddlers there, the balloons (we brought a few as our gift since it was a presents not requested party, and coincidentally managed to match colors to the ones the mama had bought already – yay!), and she also loved seeing the family’s chickens and bunnies.  The mama who’s baby turned one is a friend of mine from 20 years ago, which is still hard to absorb.  I was warned that time accelerates as you age, and really rushes by when you have kids, but it’s still hard to internalize even while living it.
We had a little break from teething, but two new ones are just starting to poke through and K has definitely been feeling them.  Lots of frozen treats – favorites include  ice chips, frozen blueberries, peas, and frozen deiced bananas (her nanna’s idea, which reminds me of last month when I offered her banana and she started cracking up.  It took me a minute but I asked “banana? Nana banana?” and she laughed harder and nodded – it was so cute).

Home


Last weekend we got coffee and went down to the river for a walk and some puddle stomping even though it was raining on and off all day.  I didn’t want to say here while he was gone, but G just got back from traveling for work for 5 weeks and we are so glad to have him home. Being the sole parent for 5 weeks was hard.  I didn’t expect it to be easy, but man I am exhausted. I have a whole new respect for single parents and for military families who had long deployments with little kids, which we haven’t had to deal with yet.

K did pretty well with it, but it definitely didn’t breeze by her.  He left at 4:30 am so we were still sleeping, but she knew something was up and that morning when he wasn’t around she brought me his shirt from the folded laundry and waved it at me asking “dada? dada?”  A few days later, when we got home for work/daycare she dug though her books and brought me one, sat down in my lap to read but push my hands away as soon as I opened to the first page to start and skipped to the last page with a family of birds.  When we read this book, she usually points to each bird and I say “mama bird, daddy bird, baby birds” as she points.  She pointed emphatically to the daddy bird, then stood up off my lap, turned to me, stomped her foot and held her hands up open on either side of her to demand “where is my daddy?”

I did talk to her a lot about how he was on a trip, like being at work, just for longer than usual.  We also did skype and talked on the phone, but for an 18 month old to a large degree there is “there” and “not there” so those things were minimal to her. She’s very happy to have everyone home again now (as are we). 

The way you are right now

I find it hard to believe that my baby is one and a half already, but I won’t go on and on about it even though I could.  I will go on and on about the way she is right now.
K is such good company at this age.  She explores the world and soaks in each new adventure with such focused intensity, it’s amazing to see.  She knows exactly what she wants, and she also knows exactly when I understand her and when I’m pretending not to, in which case she will shoot me a look that says “mom, I know you know I want that phone/remote/cookie/etc, give it here.”
She isn’t talking a ton yet, but she has a few key phrases and is getting good at communicating what she wants through body language, emphatic expression and books (which works well because we have tons of books).  Last week she was signing she was hungry, but she wouldn’t take any of the food I offered.  Then she went and searched through her books, found one, brought it to me and sat in my lap, but when I started to read to her she pushed my hand away and turned the pages quickly until she found the page with strawberries on it.  She pointed enthusiastically to the strawberries while excitedly babbling.  I asked if she wanted strawberries and the jumped up, nodded yes, and ran to the fridge.  Thankfully we actually had some.  She ate them all.  

She stopped signing for “all done” a few months ago and now mostly yells with frustration when she’s done with something, but still signs for milk and for hungry/eat. 
She says: Bird (baod), mama, mum, mom, nana, dada, what’s that (wha da), I did it (I dih ih), all gone (ah gah), all done (ah dah – only when she isn’t frustrated, like when she wants out of the highchair and that’s a small crisis, so she doesn’t have time to articulate “ah dah”), yeah, duck, bubbles, again.  She also nods yes or no pretty well, but gets them mixed up sometimes.  Generally if the nodding is very enthusiastic it means yes, regardless of direction. 
She loves to help out, throwing things out, wiping up water on the floor (that she poured out of course), and putting things away.  She’s also an accomplished destroyer of all things within reach and has recently learned how to pull chairs away from the table so she can use them to climb onto the table, which is decently impressive since the chairs are heavy and are on carpet.
When she wants something and I figure out what it is she will give me a little pat on the arm for getting it right.  It’s the sweetest thing – like “yes, good mommy, I wanted milk and you got it right.”
She loves to go outside – this is still the silver bullet for the worst meltdown or even when she’s sick with a cold and miserable about it.  She also loves to brush her teeth herself, be read to, play with scraps of fabric, climb into boxes, have ice chips, play with water and pour from cup to cup.  Favorite things include Curious George, the moon (real and in books), monkeys, and birds in all shapes forms and context. 

Baths (hair washing especially), vegetables, and car trips when she isn’t in the mood are especially unpopular.
She has an impressive temper, and I’m feeling like we are firmly in the “terrible twos” already.  Friends have helpfully assured me that starting this phase early does not mean it will end early, so that’s exciting. 
They say that kids understand everything you say by one year old, and while that seemed to be true for everything we said that was pertinent to her, she now clearly really does understand everything we say.  I’ve tested her by dropping small things into conversation with adults when she seems to be ignoring us and without changing tone, like “oh, how was the dinner you did last week?  I wanted to try a recipe like that that I found, the remote is behind the pillow on the couch, did you see the preview for that new movie coming out?” and she will go pull pillows off the couch until she finds said contraband.  
Well, that’s a lot of words.  If you’re still reading  you’re probably either my own mom or a friend close enough to already know all of these things, but it helps to write it down because I will remember every feeling of this time but most of the detail will blur and bleed into the time before and after, or just be forgotten, if I don’t write it down.  Even only 18 months in, I look back at old posts and find I remember everything but the timeline – I know that day, place, smell, feeling, but was she really pulling up already at 6 months?  I’d be skeptical of myself without the record.   
Listening to: Damien Jurado – Kola

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